A new grief model: 5 steps to HEALING from grief


So what does it actually take to heal from grief?  What do you have to do to get there?

Here is my answer: A new grief model: 5 steps to HEALING from grief

Much love,



The stories that trap us and the stories that free us.

by Kristie West May 4, 2021

Often a young (or youngish) death is considered a tragedy. But what is far more tragic are the choices sometimes made by those left behind. I heard a very sad story recently. It’s not sad because it’s about a death. It’s sad because someone who didn’t die pretty much forfeited their own life in favour […]

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Unraveling the knot

by Kristie West April 21, 2021

Grief is like a knot. A tight, hard ball. Seemingly like a solid mass. But actually it’s made up of many different threads, all temporarily joined together. When you look at this huge knot it can feel infinite, insurmountable, permanent. But, just like any other knot, this is a knot that you have to separate […]

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What it takes to heal your grief

by Kristie West February 9, 2021

I’ve been reflecting this week on what I want to create this year and what it’s going to take. I don’t mean what are the particular steps I need to take. I mean the focus and attention and effort I need to put in. The step away from distraction and procrastination, and towards what I […]

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You can’t make their life or death more meaningful

by Kristie West February 1, 2021

There’s been a lot of death around me lately. Well that’s nothing new. And not just for me. If you’re paying attention there is death around you too. All the time. Always. (And no, not just in the past year. Any and every year). In this last month I’ve heard of a number of deaths […]

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A recent short and sweet chat about death

by Kristie West January 25, 2021

Late last year I had a wonderful chat about death with Nichola Burton and Aly Cook on their podcast. It’s only about 20 minutes, so a quick and easy listen. You’ll find it here. Kristie xx

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How to stay in grief forever

by Kristie West December 9, 2020

Recently I received a facebook invite to a grief related page. I think it was an event, or a movie viewing…or something. I didn’t actually pay much attention, because as soon as I opened the page the very first sentence had me clicking immediately out and never going back. “Grief is the form love takes […]

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Will working on grief open up old wounds before it starts to heal?

by Kristie West November 16, 2020

In a word, yes. If you have a wound that hasn’t healed and you’ve covered it over with a whole bunch of bandaids, then, if you wish to heal it, you’re going to have to get the bandaids off to get to it. And when the air first touches it, yes it might hurt. It […]

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“That’s where all its beauty lies, you know. The mortality of the thing.”

by Kristie West November 6, 2020

A very beautiful quote for you. If you’re not a fan of horror – the scary, jumpy, ghosty kind – then you’ll want to avoid the series I recently watched – The Haunting of Bly Manor. (And you’ll definitely want to avoid it’s even better – or much worse, depending on how you look at […]

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Why am I grieving old losses more during the pandemic?

by Kristie West November 3, 2020

Previously I’ve written about covid-19 (here and here) and how constant fear and lack of perspective is affecting people this year, and that a lot of this has to do with your own relationship to the idea of death, specifically your death and the deaths of those around you. But there is another element of […]

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Talking to a 5-year old about death

by Kristie West October 28, 2020

This is not my first blog about talking to kids about death. I wrote on the topic even before I had a child of my own and, now that I do, there seems to be an updated blog around this theme for me to do every year or so, as my daughter gets older. She […]

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