You need to consciously cultivate joy.

by Kristie West April 7, 2020

I was watching a video of a friend yesterday and he said something that really struck me. He was talking about the importance of consciously turning to what you want, rather than always focusing on what you’re unhappy with and complaining about it. And he said that you have to consciously choose fun and happiness […]

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“Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people”.

by Kristie West March 16, 2020

Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people. I don’t know who first said this – likely none of the people who shared it on facebook, where I saw it – but it’s true nonetheless. Tradition “is the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation.” Some of these can be wonderful, beautiful customs […]

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Letting fun and joy and laughter back in

by Kristie West March 1, 2020

Letting fun and joy and laughter back in When you’re grieving the death of someone you love it can be very natural to feel a lot of negative emotion…and not a lot of positive. This isn’t everyone’s experience but it’s probably true for most people. For a while we think there is actually no fun […]

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Dr Shefali’s thoughts on death

by Kristie West February 23, 2020

Dr Shefali’s thoughts on death I watched a brilliant video by Dr Shefali recently. I’m a big fan, but I usually go to her for her parenting wisdom. This time though she was talking about death and was pretty spot on. “Death is one of those taboo topics that no-one really wants to talk about […]

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The stories we tell

by Kristie West February 11, 2020

 The stories we tell   Ooo, don’t we humans love our stories? We use them to explain who we are and why we do what we do. We use them to make sense of the world. We use them to connect  to others. There’s nothing wrong with this. It’s one of the beautiful things about […]

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Decluttering and grief

by Kristie West February 2, 2020

Decluttering and grief   Decluttering is a brilliant idea. Always. Seriously, I can’t really come up with a reason not to do it. I’m a brilliant declutterer when it comes to physical stuff. I don’t need Marie Kondo’s help. I simply have a relationship (or lack there of) to ‘stuff’ that is different to most […]

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Dealing with grief at Christmas

by Kristie West December 24, 2019

Dealing with grief at Christmas   At this time of year, when we can be bombarded with messages and images of families and told that this is a time to be with our ‘loved ones’ and that this the happiest time of the year it can make any grief you’re having all the harder to deal […]

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Walls, blocks, resistance to healing from grief and why this requires a LOT of your attention

by Kristie West December 4, 2019

Walls, blocks, resistance to healing from grief and why this requires a LOT of your attention   A crucial part of healing – as in so crucial that you won’t heal if you don’t sort this – is recognising and shifting any resistance, blocks, or walls within you to healing. These are the parts of you, […]

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Are all types of grief the same?

by Kristie West November 29, 2019

Are all types of grief the same? It’s a very common assumption that all types of grief are kinda the same i.e. that the grief of death and the grief of a relationship ending and the grief of the end of a career, etc, are all just different degrees of the same thing.  And therefore […]

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Helping others when you think they’ve been in grief long enough

by Kristie West November 25, 2019

Helping others when you think they’ve been in grief long enough   This is a question that comes up quite a bit: how can you help someone grieving? At what point do you intervene to point them in a healing direction? And (if you want to get really honest) when will they stop all this […]

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