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An attitude of gratitude – awesome. But around death?!

An attitude of gratitude


I bet it’s not the first time you’ve heard someone talk about the power of gratitude and the importance of having gratitude for our lives and the people and events in them.  Taking a few moments a day to take stock of what you have to be grateful for is one of the most powerful practices I know of.

But you don’t often hear about it around death…

 Why not?

We typically grow up being very conditioned to know death as only bad and sad and to even find the idea of ‘gratitude’ around death absolutely abhorrent.

But…when you can feel grateful for elements of someone’s death, it makes their death (and their life, which their death is a part of) more meaningful.  It makes their death less painful for you….and therefore they are easier to think about, easier to talk about, easier to love.  It means you get to see how even in their death did they contribute greatly to the lives of those who matter to them and to the world.  And it means their legacy is so much bigger than just people they love left in pain.

In fact, take the practice of gratitude around a death to its extreme so you feel grateful for every  element of their death and I can’t even begin to explain how this changes their memory and their legacy.  And how this changes your life.

That might sound impossible but it is absolutely possible.  It takes a different path, a commitment to look, and a desire for something different than this.

Just because it’s more difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible. In fact it makes it all the more important to do.

The first thing to do is just simply start.  What little (or big) thing can you be grateful for today around a death in your life?

Who did it bring you closer to?

Who did it bring into your life?

What did it make you learn?

What changes for the better did it bring about in your life?

What new direction did it send you on?

And with each thing you find, whether that is 1 thing or 50 things right now, that is something you can thank your person who died for. This is a gift that their death brought and they deserve to be honoured for it.  You can take this as a gift in a spiritual or religious sense…or just as an unintentional gift.

I can thank my dad for a closer relationship with my mum, a closer relationship with my brother, and being driven towards work I love.  And that’s just to start with…..

What gift can you say thank you for today to your person who died?

Feel free to write it below!

Much love,