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My interview with Bella Dodds on The Luminaries - Kristie West

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My interview with Bella Dodds on The Luminaries

My interview with Bella Dodds on The Luminaries

A little while ago I was interviewed by the wonderful Bella Dodds on her Luminaries radio show.  We spent an hour talking about everything grief-related, what my work is about and how it happens, what is possible for you when you have had a death in your life, and how to start stepping away from society’s story of grief and starting to see it in a very different, healing, and empowering way.

Bella asked some brilliant questions and we had the chance to go really in-depth on the topic.

Get yourself a cup of tea and have a listen here!

To listen you have to sign up to 180 radio but the first month is free, so all you need to do is sign up (it’s a simple few-click process), listen (or download) and then cancel the subscription straight after if you wish.  Unless of course you like the look of the other interviews on there and want to keep the membership.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Kristie

xx

PS In the blurb Bella apologises for the overuse of the word ‘beautiful’.  I make no such apology. 🙂

Tagged as: Bella Dodds The Luminaries, interview about grief

{ 2 comments }

Kay Sargent August 27, 2014 at 3:55 pm

So are you saying the legacy of one’s life should be a reflection of our own feelings? After a year and a half of my husband’s death (after 55 years of marriage)I am just getting to where I need to find “me” again. I have been living in his shadow all this time. Everyone says keep busy and I joined things, and do volunteering, but at the end of the day I still come home to an empty house. The me with him before didn’t do that, that is why I need to get back to the things I used to do like sewing and genealogy.

Love what you said about kids’ feelings. My daughter took the little ones to visit a tree that we have in the arboretum where we buried ashes. They took decorations to honor his birthday and she said later.. “say goodbye to grandpa” and they chorused “goodbye, goodbye, grandpa” and a few minutes later the little 4 year-old said “Is grandpa a tree now?”.. I thought that was the most precious thing. Grandpa is all around us. Loved your interview and your emails.

Kristie West September 8, 2014 at 4:09 am

Hi Kay,

I’m glad you took some things away from this interview. 🙂

So someone’s legacy is really anything they leave behind. Any ripple (big or small) created by their life…and by their death. If they set up a business that continues…this is part of their legacy. If they forever changed lives…this is part of their legacy. Etc etc. And this includes the impact their death makes on the world. If, because of their death, some people are left destroyed, ‘less’, unable to live fully long-term…then this too is part of their legacy. And it’s part we have full control over.
It never sat right with me that a family in pieces, a family that was ‘less’, was a suitable legacy for my dad. This was part of what drove me on through my healing journey to where I got too, and part of what drives me to help others…so that those who died in their lives have a far more fitting and beautiful legacy too.
The lessons you learn, the path you take, the new Kay (because death, like all big..and small to a degree too…events in our lives, change who we are) are all part of your husband’s legacy too. And these are all within your power to change.

K
xx