Commit to your healing
The new year is often kicked off with new years resolutions. Decisions to change something, do something different, try something new, or stop something unhelpful.
I call them ‘new years false illusions’ because, while it’s so freaken important to take responsibility for where you are at and where you’re going, the idea that suddenly something that wasn’t happening in your life yesterday will just magically become more important to you on the 1st of January is a bit of a fantasy.
Gyms know that January is an awesome time to sign up new members. Everyone races in with their sparkling new plans for weightloss and fitness, armed with the best of intentions….until, within a few months, it’s all been forgotten and all that’s left is resentment for the monthly fee that comes out of the bank account but you can’t quit because you will go…tomorrow…or next week.
But this isn’t news to you. Like me you’ve probably been there, done that, got the active wear. I joined a gym….once. I’m not sure why….I’ve never even liked gyms. When I’ve done fitness…and it’s been a long time since I’ve ‘done’ fitness…I prefer stuff I can do outdoors or at home. But I thought I’d get fit I guess and for whatever reason the gym seemed the place. Cut to a couple of months later when I’m wheedling out of a years membership (by claiming a dodgy knee – that I already had – happened at the gym…shhh) and swearing never again.
It’s not that you can’t make changes or things can’t be different…your life can change in any way you want it to. But opening up a brand new calendar won’t magically get you there.
You know this about fitness.
You know this about health.
You know this about business.
Now realise it about healing too.
You have to start by committing. Whatever it is you have to commit. Don’t just say you commit. Be honest with yourself: if you aren’t totally going to commit to this thing then give yourself a break now, let it go, and find something else to use that energy on.
But if you really mean it then commit.
And if you want to heal from your grief….and especially to head down a G.R.I.E.F. path (from pain and loss….to Gratitude, Real connection, Inspiration, Empowerment and Freedom from pain) then you absolutely have to commit.
If you are truly, truly committed to healing then nothing will stop you. It doesn’t matter what path you take, or how long it takes, or where else you stop on the way, or who tells you that you can’t, eventually you will find your way to total and complete healing.
But if you just ‘like’ the idea, figure you’ll do something about it ‘one day’, read a blog or two then get back to the grief forums where you feel at home, figure that it’ll just ‘take time’ (it won’t) so you’ll just wait, then you’re as likely to heal as the person who has the gym membership but never bothers showing up.
That is, not likely.
The kind of healing I’m talking about, like fitness, is not passive.
Ask yourself if you really mean it – it’s ok if you don’t, just be honest – then commit.
Commit to your healing.
Commit with your heart.
Commit to yourself.
Kristie
xx
