Maybe you have it wrong.

by Kristie West October 15, 2018

  Maybe you have it wrong. Maybe you grew up thinking death is bad. Just bad. Maybe you’ve always believed that the experience of a death in your life is meant to be terrible. Maybe you’ve always thought grief is awful, and forever, and ‘the price you pay for love’. Maybe things aren’t black and […]

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The threat of change can keep you stuck in your grief

by Kristie West October 11, 2018

The threat of change can keep you stuck in your grief It’s so interesting how threatened we can be by change. There are many reasons why people choose to stay in grief (and often do it permanently) and one is simply that it becomes very, very familiar….and without it??…well the unknown can be just too […]

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How disappointing my advice can be….

by Kristie West October 6, 2018

How disappointing my advice can be…. Often I hear from people I know when they have just had a death in their lives – say within the last week – asking for my advice. To be honest, I think I mostly disappoint them. Given that I’m always talking about healing completely and permanently from grief, I […]

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I don’t need to change your world view but……..

by Kristie West September 19, 2018

I don’t need to change your world view but…….. I don’t need to change your world view…but I’d like to. My work is based on very practical and logical ideas and the steps you take, though very challenging at times, can be understood practically.  You don’t need to have any particular set of beliefs to […]

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A healthy fear of death.

by Kristie West September 17, 2018

A Healthy Fear of Death Is it good to have a “healthy fear” of death? No. Firstly, what most people feel isn’t fear…it’s terror. They don’t want to think about death, face it, be around it. Instead they deny it, pretend it won’t happen (yes you who doesn’t have a will when you know you need […]

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Telling people what you need after a death

by Kristie West September 5, 2018

Telling people what you need after a death   I’ve seen on Facebook that an old friend of mine has had a very close family member die a few days ago. Yesterday she did her first post since it happened. It said “I will not be having any visitors after 6pm today. Thank you for respecting […]

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Your greatest barrier to healing from your grief….(and it is great news)

by Kristie West October 21, 2017

Your greatest barrier to healing from your grief…. Is not the amount of pain you’re in. Is not how recently or how long ago it happened. Is not how how they died or how old they were. Is not the amount of love you have for them or your relationship to them. Is most certainly not […]

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Talking to toddlers about death

by Kristie West October 9, 2017

Talking to toddlers about death   This is something that has been going on in my family lately…introducing my toddler a bit more to death…and I thought you might find it interesting to know how to do it in a normal, natural and healthy way if you too have small children or are around them […]

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The difference between COPING with grief and HEALING from grief

by Kristie West October 3, 2017
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The difference between COPING with grief and HEALING from grief   Once again I’m answering a question one of your questions. And it’s a question that I absolutely LOVE.  It’s a question about the difference between coping with grief and healing from grief. This is a question not enough people ask. Mostly because they don’t […]

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How do I let people get close to me after a death in my life?

by Kristie West September 16, 2017

  This is a very interesting question I’ve received from someone who had many deaths in their life and now struggles to really let anybody in. “I feel that I am dealing with the grief fairly well, but I notice that it’s very hard, if not near to impossible, to let anyone new close to […]

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