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A different way forward after a death
You can heal your grief
Not coping. Not learning to live with it. Actual healing - so you can remember, talk about, and love your person who died… without it hurting anymore.
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You can HEAL your grief
Someone you love has died. Maybe more than one someone. Maybe recently... maybe decades ago.
And somewhere along the way, you learnt that all you can do now is learn to live with it. That the pain just gets a bit less - or at least more manageable. But that it never actually leaves.
This doesn't have to be true.
And maybe something inside of you is already telling you there has to be more than this.
You CAN heal your grief.
You can get to the place where you can remember, talk about, and love them... without it hurting you anymore.
I healed my own grief after multiple traumatic deaths in my family over a short period. Since then, I've spent nearly two decades helping others do the same.
There is a better way
What I'm offering you is something totally different to what most believe is possible.
Most people are taught that grief is something to survive, something to get through - not something you can actually heal. And that's reflected in the common approaches to grief. They're built around the premise that, to some degree, your grief is permanent - that it's something you'll have to carry with you. So,the focus is generally on helping you cope with it or manage it. But managing is not what I'm suggesting for you.
My work isn't about coping. It's about transforming your grief so profoundly and beautifully that it never feels the same again. That your experience of your person who died changes completely.
The G.R.I.E.F Process
This is the process behind that transformation.
This is not counselling or therapy. It's not open-ended talk about how you feel.
It's a structured, practical, step-by-step, deeply thorough process - one I created and have spent many years refining, walking this road with people just like you - that takes you from the pain and grief to a completely different relationship with the person you love, their death, and your own life.
We leave no stone unturned on this path to true transformation. Nothing is off limits - wherever the pain is actually coming from, that's where we go. It isn't only about the death itself. It's about whatever stands in the way of you loving them freely.
The G.R.I.E.F. Process is the journey from pain and loss to:
Gratitude: for the person you love, every part of their life, and your own.
Reconnection: to them, and to yourself.
Inspiration: as your story starts to look and feel very different.
Empowerment: to step forward and live fully again, because of your experiences (not despite them).
Freedom: real freedom... from the pain itself.
None of this is about pushing feelings aside or finding clever ways to manage them. This isn't positive thinking. It isn't ignoring the bad, or pretending you feel better than you do. It isn't a spiritual trick to block out or push down the pain.
It's about changing the story that's creating the pain in the first place. And when that story changes, everything changes.
That is healing.
Healing doesn't mean letting go or saying goodbye to them. It means removing the barrier that stands between you and your love, your memories, and your connection to them - the very grief that people so often believe is what keeps them close.
And what's on the other side of that isn't just relief. It's something genuinely beautiful, worthy, and meaningful. A life, and a death, you can hold with real gratitude, not just less pain.
What changes often doesn't stay contained to this one death, either. Once the story around it shifts, people find it changes how they see other parts of their life too - including how they carry death going forward, whatever life brings next.
This work can be challenging - real change often is - but it is also warm, gentle, and positive.
And you don't have to figure any of it out alone. I walk every step of it with you.
That is what I am here for.
Is this for YOU?
This work isn't for everybody. But there are only two things you need, in order to know if it's right for you:
1. A genuine interest in healing. Not just coping, not just feeling a bit better - actually healing. It's completely fine to have reservations and questions about healing. Everyone I've ever worked with has. But somewhere in you, there has to be a genuine desire for it - a sense that, if this really is possible, this is something you'd want.
2. A willingness to do the work.
That's it.
You don't need any particular spiritual or religious beliefs, or any at all. Whatever you believe, or don't believe, we'll work within it. You don't need to have done therapy or coaching before. You don't need any particular education or background. And it doesn't matter if it's been a long time - years, or even decades. If you haven't healed, this work is still available to you.
You also don't need to be in any particular part of the world - I work exclusively online, with people everywhere.
The one exception is timing: I generally don't begin this work with anyone less than six months after a death. In that early, rawer stage, it's usually just too soon.
What my clients say
"My beloved husband Dave died suddenly and unexpectedly on June 1st, 2024. I was so devastated that my life came to a complete stop. For months I barely functioned and I felt like I had lost not only my husband, but my best friend, and my confidant. The one person I could always count on, who always cheered me on and who was my biggest fan. How could I ever be happy again?
My blessing was hearing about Kristie. In my initial consultation with her I literally felt like my husband was standing behind me, telling me that I had to work with her. I will be forever grateful that I did so!
I began my journey with Kristie last year and we literally talked through every aspect of my husband’s passing together. Like she had promised me at the onset, we left ‘no stone unturned’. In her upbeat and insightful ways, Kristie helped me overcome the resistance I had in letting go of the grief and all the many things that kept me stuck in it.
As we progressed I began to see that dealing with every aspect of Dave’s death was a journey of healing – not only the grief of his passing, but healing the things that kept me in bondage, namely my fears. I realised ultimately what beauty and gifts were there for me, even in Dave’s passing. Being able to let go of so many fears was probably one of the most profound blessings I received during this journey. Having shed the heavy cloak of sorrow, I now feel closer to him again, and I cherish the wonderful memories and am just grateful to have been married to the amazing man I was lucky enough to call my partner for 22 years.
Kristie had promised me the ‘impossible’ – that I would feel completely different about my husband’s death once we completed our journey together. Prior to our sessions, I believed that grief never ceased, that perhaps it would change over time, but that it would always be there. But she fulfilled her promise – and I am thrilled to feel like a whole person again. I now live a ‘new’ life that feels completely fulfilled and happy. And I know in my heart of hearts that Dave would want this for me.
I am more than grateful to Kristie for her unique approach and the wisdom with which she helped me navigate my grief. I miss my sessions with her and cherish the lovely relationship that has come out of all the soul searching we did together."
— Britta
“I started working with Kristie about 9 months after my mom passed away from cancer. By then, my acute pain was gone. However, I felt like I was under a heavy wet blanket of sadness and heaviness that I just couldn’t shake. I’d been my mom’s sole caregiver and inherited all the gifts that come with the job: guilt, regret, “shoulda, coulda, woulda” and a bit of PTSD. But worst of all, I couldn’t feel mom’s presence. As close as we were when she was alive, I’d expected to have a strong connection with her after she passed. But I didn’t. I felt nothing. Now that I’ve gone through the process with Kristie and feel mom strongly, I realize that I wasn’t feeling her not because she wasn’t there, but because I was in a place where she couldn’t reach me. My grief and sadness stopped me from feeling her presence. Now that all that has lifted and I feel joyful, I can feel her.
Another aspect of my grief was not even related to mom’s death, but her life. The last 25 years of her life, mom had schizophrenia. This disease tore apart our family and brought us all a lot of heartache. It was a tragedy. Or at least this is how I saw it when I started working with Kristie.
The magic of Kristie’s process is in the fact that it’s not about learning how to cope. It completely transforms the way you perceive an event or an emotion so there is nothing left with which you need to cope. Kristie didn’t leave a stone unturned. And she challenged some of my most dearly held assumptions which made me see things in a completely new light. As a result, I’ve come to see mom’s entire life, including her disease and her death, as a beautiful masterpiece, not a tragedy. And this is the greatest gift anybody could have given me.
Kristie is amazing, and I can’t recommend her highly enough. I always felt uplifted after our sessions. They were always positive and rewarding, no matter how heavy the subject. And after each session, I felt just a little bit better than I did before. Over time, these small changes added up to a completely new outlook on mom’s life and death.
And now when I think about mom, there is no sadness and there is no missing her. Instead, I feel joy and gratitude and I feel her presence. I know this is hard to believe when you are under that wet blanket of grief, but I am here to tell you it’s possible. Healing from grief doesn’t mean letting go of your loved one. It’s the exact opposite – it means removing the barrier that stands between you and them, so you can finally connect.”
— Olga
“My father and mother died within 1 year and 4 days of each other. After a year of misery, guilt and grief, I was feeling like I hated everything, I hated my life, and I was drifting and aimless, feeling like an “orphan.” I could not look at pictures of my parents nor could I even think about them for more than a few seconds before the pain made me stop.
After working with Kristie, I now see my parents’ deaths as having been exactly what they were supposed to be – not unfair, or taken too early, or any of those other terrible thoughts and feeling you have when a loved one who dies.
I can remember and celebrate my parents for who they were, and I can call up their memories without crying or stopping myself from thinking of them.
Moreover, Kristie also gave me the gift of seeing the beauty in their actual lives, not just their deaths. I am able to appreciate the wonderful people they were and the gifts they gave me in living and dying.
Kristie is incredibly warm, supportive and caring, but what I loved about working with her the most was that everything she said made sense and she was able to help me reframe the way I saw my parents’ lives and their deaths. That is a gift that many people never receive, and I’m incredibly grateful to her.”
— Robin
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