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Talking about death & living
When an old friend died, regret came first. Then a reminder of how to live with death in mind.
Rethinking grief
Even the wisest people can find that their beliefs stop just short of death.
Healing from grief
It's considered common knowledge that you simply can't heal from grief after a death.
Healing from grief
Why real healing work sometimes makes you uncomfortable, and why that's a good sign.
Recent death
It takes active work to heal and this is something most people aren't ready for right after a death, when everything is at the surface and the experience can be very raw.
Healing from grief
Worried something about you or your situation means you can't heal? There are only two conditions that matter.
Rethinking grief
A conversation with a friend after a recent death showed what grief can look like when you stay open to all of it.
Healing from grief
Being "fine" after a death is far too low a standard. You can have nothing but love for them.
Rethinking grief
The idea that the immensity of your grief shows the immensity of your love for them is a belief I bump up against all the time.
Healing from grief
Nobody wants to be remembered for the years they didn't live.